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11-11

This has always been a prominent day on my calendar. There has always been in entry, even if the box is blank.  You know there are some things you don't have to write down to remember.  November 11th was my mother's birthday.  She was 36 years old when she died.  She has been gone now 38 years. She would have been 75 years old today.  Now I cannot even begin to imagine what she would have looked like at 75.  One thing about death, the aging really does stop.  I have tried over the years to imagine her with my kids, with my brother and sister's kids.  I think about her at weddings.  I think about how different things would have been if she had not died.  I know a few things that would not have happened.. like husband #2.  No doubt I wouldn't have done that if she had been here.  Alot of things I have thought about over the last 30+ years.  

In many ways I have become my mother.  I don't deny it.  Or regret it.  I find a lot of her in my personality I got from her.  So blame her.  LOL  easy for me to do!  

My brother and sister in law got married on 11-11.  I think it is 34 years today.  I know she would have been thrilled about that.  I know that she would love the life Bobby and Donna have made for themselves.  I know that she would be so proud with his kids Eric and Heather.  And god knows she would be over the moon with the 1st great grandson, Austin.  

My mother's brother, my Uncle Joe and his wife Vicky got married on 11-11.  They got married the year after my mother died,  in 1975.  Vicky died of cancer and then Uncle Joe died some 5 or 6 years ago. I am not so sure mom would have liked Vicky but Vicky wouldn't have known it.  The rest of her family and friends would have but Vicky wouldn't have!

So I guess with her birthday and her passing away, and Uncle Joe and Aunt Vicky gone,  Bobby and Donna's anniversary, my head and my heart sometimes neglects the national holiday.  I know it Veteran's Day and I am thankful for all those that serve, served and those that paid the ultimate sacrifice.  I am.  

But my heart and head is usually a tad full of stuff closer to home. 

A little this a little that...

Stephanie sent me some pictures of Austin last night.  He turned 2 weeks old yesterday and it was halloween. His grandma bought him a sleeper. He is so cute and changing every day.  

I think all that halloween posing wore him out!!

Taylor went to Arielle's last night to take her little sister Trick or Treating.  Lord Lord Lord.  That's all I can say.   Meanwhile back at the ranch we had 19 trick or treaters.  They mostly came in bunches so I actually got to open the door 6 times.  Around 9:15 I was ready to change into my pajamas and decided the next bunch got the rest of the bowl.  No one ever came.  I am left with too much candy again.  Thankfully I don't like whats next.

I took Mr Trew to the Ambulatory Surgery Center yesterday for his eye lid tucks. Not sure why they call it a tuck, they actually just cut all that extra flappy stuff off.  He has a long row of stitches on both eye lids now.  He is also bruising pretty good too.  They told him to ice them but he didn't like that too much.  He was supposed to do it every 30 minutes or so while he was awake yesterday but he only did it twice. He didn't like the cold at all.  He said a damp washcloth was all he was doing.  For someone who normally follows the doctors orders to a T, he didn't this time.  LOL he was funny.  He said he would do what his eyes warranted.  I guess they didn't warrant ice packs.  

Well thats about all from here.  We have a baseball game tonight and I think I might have to take a hoodie.  Yep its getting a bit chilly when the sun starts going down.  We have a tournament this weekend at St. Leo University.  I like going up there, its a beautiful campus. I don't think our team will do all that well but we will play 3 games and hope for more.  You know that longer you win the longer you play!